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Until I realized I became the very woman I resented.

That realization changed everything.

This is the story of how forgiving my Mom taught me how to forgive myself.

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Why Don’t I Listen???

Those are the words I constantly ask myself.

And the answer goes all the way back to when I was a little girl.

Before I tell this story, I need you to understand something.

I love my mother dearly.

She is my rock.

She is one of the reasons I became the strong woman I am today.

But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized something important:

Being a Strong Black Woman is often born from survival mode.

And while survival mode can save your life, it was never meant to become your entire identity.

The Most High didn’t create us simply to survive.

We were created to live.

To experience.

To enjoy.

To heal.

To embrace all that makes up SHE.

The beautiful parts.

The broken parts.

The growing parts.

The parts we are still discovering.

As children, we don’t always understand that our parents are fighting battles we cannot see.

We only know what we needed and what we felt we didn’t receive.

For years, I resented my mother.

Not because she didn’t love me.

But because I wanted her comfort when all she knew was survival.

I wanted her to understand emotions she had never been given permission to process herself.

It wasn’t until I started raising my own children that I understood something that changed everything:

My mother wasn’t withholding love.

She was surviving.

And when I finally saw that, forgiveness became possible.

Not because my pain wasn’t real.

But because I realized her pain was real too.

That realization became one of the first steps in relearning who I was beneath survival mode.

By forgiving my Mom, I was finally able to begin forgiving myself.

Not just for what happened to me.

But for the hurt I unintentionally passed on to my own children while I was still trying to heal.

I became a Teen Mom before I truly understood myself.

I chose a partner who was carrying wounds of his own because I was still carrying mine.

I ran from family because I resented who I believed life had forced me to become.

And before I knew it, I had repeated some of the very cycles I once resented.

For years, I hated myself for that.

But healing taught me something important:

I cannot change what happened.

I can only choose what I do with the lesson.

The only way forward was to take a deep dive into Identity Work.

I forgave my Mom because I realized she was surviving.

Then I forgave myself because I realized I was surviving too.

Today, my Mom and I have one of the healthiest relationships we’ve ever had.

Are we perfect?

Absolutely not.

We still have flaws.

We still have moments.

And I am definitely my Mother’s child.

But we continue choosing each other, growing together, and learning together.

And I love that for us.

🌹 Relearning Me: Identity Work Framework

This framework helped me stop living as the woman survival mode created and start reconnecting with the woman I was always meant to be.

It helped me understand my story without becoming trapped by it.

It helped me forgive.

It helped me heal.

And most importantly, it helped me rediscover ME.

Now I want to ask you:

🌹 Who were you before survival?

🌹 What parts of you disappeared?

🌹 What are you rediscovering?

🌹 What are you releasing?

🌹 Who are you becoming?

If these questions stirred something inside of you, then your healing journey may already be calling your name.

Are you ready to begin relearning YOU?

Welcome to Identity Work: The Woman Behind Survival Mode.

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